How to practice emotional first aid | Guy Winch

  • Published: 16 February 2015
  • We'll go to the doctor when we feel flu-ish or a nagging pain. So why don’t we see a health professional when we feel emotional pain: guilt, loss, loneliness? Too many of us deal with common psychological-health issues on our own, says Guy Winch. But we don’t have to. He makes a compelling case to practice emotional hygiene — taking care of our emotions, our minds, with the same diligence we take care of our bodies.

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  • Ger -
    Ger -  2 days back

    I’ve been taking care of my mind everyday for 20yrs now I smoke some weed before bed

    • Eleni Cha
      Eleni Cha  2 days back

      I wish I could find all my favorite books in audio by this guy -side comment

      • c'est moi
        c'est moi  2 days back

        He sounds like an old fashion film announcer or actor from back in the day when they called movies 'talkies'.

        • armyforlife3 Nao
          armyforlife3 Nao  2 days back


          • Nibras
            Nibras  3 days back

            That was really deep, thank you

            • Fabienne Diamond
              Fabienne Diamond  3 days back

              this is so deep 😭

              • risinghumans .blogspotdotcom

                Lonliness and fear should be stabilised for a good life. Please check and share to near and dears if you find it useful after reading .

                • pätiplika
                  pätiplika  4 days back

                  im so lonely

                  • yensama
                    yensama  4 days back

                    This is probably the best TED talk I have watch.

                    • yensama
                      yensama  4 days back

                      When we get AI, and robots it will help tremendously. I may not be alive then but it's good to know the younger generations will be able to get the helps.

                      • Harshita Singh
                        Harshita Singh  4 days back

                        "Emotional first aid". Meaning of self help seems to be so simplified now. It's mind blowing how it's way easier than I assumed it to be( Or as I was tricked into believing) , the self help.

                        • X4rrr
                          X4rrr  4 days back

                          unfortunately this whole guy's thesis is predicated on the false statement that we currently do "nothing" to look after our emotional hygiene, and teach "nothing" about how to do it, which is clearly not true. I mean, really? Every positive internal monologue, every bath run after a hard day, all the mood lighting, the friendly call just to check in on someone, all the angry gym sessions burning up that cortisol and adrenaline, every hot beverage offered in time of need, every pep talk by a peer, every hug from a friend ...all that is nothing? i don't think so Mr Winch.

                          i'm not knocking the content here and self-care is vital, but it's a really poor way to start your talk with a false narrative that makes your inch deep advice sound more profound. Typical of the middle-brow infotainment we have become so fatigued with by TED.

                          • QuantumFrost
                            QuantumFrost  4 days back

                            He sounds like a Skyrim character, but damn that loneliness section hit weirdly

                            • Derrick Olson
                              Derrick Olson  5 days back

                              Askew/Me Production by Derrick Olson ... answer to week one questions. General Manifesto

                              • alawia chusna
                                alawia chusna  5 days back


                              • SC Wong
                                SC Wong  5 days back

                                Thank you very much for this.

                                • Yani
                                  Yani  5 days back

                                  wow, what a doctor 💯

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                                    • C G
                                      C G  6 days back


                                      • Ku Boj
                                        Ku Boj  6 days back


                                        • Andro Madrogaba
                                          Andro Madrogaba  6 days back

                                          this was meaningful <3

                                          • Edmundo Lee
                                            Edmundo Lee  6 days back


                                            • Dahlia
                                              Dahlia  6 days back

                                              once he said "rejection" I burst into tears
                                              yes, rejection is scarring

                                              • Dragos W
                                                Dragos W  7 days back


                                                • Anamika Pandey
                                                  Anamika Pandey  7 days back


                                                  • Elisha Topia
                                                    Elisha Topia  7 days back

                                                    Thank you for this TED talk

                                                    • Jess J Pinto
                                                      Jess J Pinto  1 weeks back

                                                      this video is my distraction when I feel that urge to ruminate

                                                      • dbsk06
                                                        dbsk06  1 weeks back

                                                        This is too relevant for me rn

                                                        • Queenie Resmundo
                                                          Queenie Resmundo  2 weeks back

                                                          I've been attackedt

                                                          • Rafa Yel
                                                            Rafa Yel  2 weeks back

                                                            thank you very much god blesses you

                                                            • christopher ortega
                                                              christopher ortega  2 weeks back

                                                              I wish that this loneliness goes away or just kill me

                                                              • Jean980
                                                                Jean980  2 weeks back

                                                                1. We value physical health more than psychological health. If we had a broken leg, we would not say walk it off. But we do that with loneliness, failure, depression.
                                                                2. Take action when you're lonely. Loneliness makes us believe those around us care less than they actually do. It is based on your personal perception. Loneliness can be as harmful to your health as cigarette smoking.
                                                                3. Don't let your mind be tricked by failure Are you aware how your mind deals with failure? People believe their setbacks means they're no longer capable and do not reach their potential. Our minds are hard to change once it's made up. We have to fight to stop feeling the failure.
                                                                4. Be your own best friend and protect yourself against rejection. Rejection forces us to call ourselves names and damage our own self esteem. We wouldn't get a cut on our arm and dig at it and make it worse, but we do that with psychological. Instead, we need to protect our self esteem. Treat yourself with the same compassion you would treat others.
                                                                5. Constantly battle negative thinking. Rumination is when you agonize over the same idea over and over. Study shows even a two minute distraction is enough! Battle negative thinking constantly will foster positive thinking.

                                                                • Kevin Thornton
                                                                  Kevin Thornton  2 weeks back

                                                                  This was an absolute eye opener for me. I have a lot of self reflection to do and I need to stop turning people away from my life based on what I think they might think of me.
                                                                  Thank you

                                                                  • Purple Flame
                                                                    Purple Flame  2 weeks back

                                                                    What my school teaches us: eat, sleep, work out and you won't be depressed

                                                                    • Mike J
                                                                      Mike J  2 weeks back

                                                                      I do this all the time it like my mind attacks itself all the time

                                                                      • reverof ukato
                                                                        reverof ukato  2 weeks back

                                                                        I'll only say thanks a lot

                                                                        • Coffeeleetbr0
                                                                          Coffeeleetbr0  2 weeks back

                                                                          Amazing TEDtalk

                                                                          • Irena Freidin
                                                                            Irena Freidin  2 weeks back

                                                                            He sounds like that google translate voice, I thought the video was being narrated by a bot, and then I looked at the vid and saw it was actually him speaking... crazy!

                                                                            • Prince Arias
                                                                              Prince Arias  3 weeks back

                                                                              I want to learn how can I tell if someone is manipulating me my name is Prince

                                                                              • M H.M
                                                                                M H.M  3 weeks back

                                                                                Love you😄 and i will danse for you💃💃💃💃
                                                                                This was great🙏

                                                                                • carol gaspar
                                                                                  carol gaspar  3 weeks back

                                                                                  Had a patient once accompanied by a psychologist. It seems he is not completely naive with medical terms, etc. But he was interfering with my management for the patient who was having anaphylaxis. So I had to ask what he does for a living. He said he is a psychologist. I thought the same thing but I did not say it out loud - "Oh, so you're not a real doctor". I still tried to be as polite as I can in dealing with him.
                                                                                  I have huge respect for psychologists. But this one was very arrogant and he was trying to influence the patient not to get proper treatment.

                                                                                  • Laudon1965
                                                                                    Laudon1965  3 weeks back

                                                                                    These tips are wonderful, and I’ve heard similar before. I already live with lifelong severe chronic depression due to childhood abuse. For me it’s often like facing the struggles he describes with both hands tied behind me. I’m still here though. Some days that has to be victory enough.

                                                                                    • Jen
                                                                                      Jen  3 weeks back

                                                                                      Wait - this was called "how to practice emotional hygiene" -- this is exactly the same talk.

                                                                                      • claire arlene podador
                                                                                        claire arlene podador  3 weeks back

                                                                                        Very informative. Kudos to the speaker 😊

                                                                                        • Emile Coetzee
                                                                                          Emile Coetzee  3 weeks back

                                                                                          12:45 hit me like a brick to the head. Most effective analogy I've heard so far. This guy is clearly highly intelligent

                                                                                          • Saad Mansoor
                                                                                            Saad Mansoor  3 weeks back

                                                                                            Just half way though and liked the video

                                                                                            • ashish kalita
                                                                                              ashish kalita  3 weeks back

                                                                                     was very soothing

                                                                                              • Wejdan Y
                                                                                                Wejdan Y  3 weeks back

                                                                                                What are some of his best audiobook ??